It’s Okay to Not Be Okay

It’s okay to be utterly defeated but still feel happiness.

It’s okay to want something you can’t have but appreciate all that you do.

It’s okay to miss someone even if you’re surrounded by so many incredible people.

It’s okay to not be okay.

If you feel anger, push it into a place that will fuel you.

If you feel sadness, cry until your tears float you a little closer to the sky.

If you feel abandoned, hug yourself with warm blankets and tea or let someone else do it for a change.

It’s okay to not be okay.

When you want love, know it arrives and leaves exactly when it’s supposed to.

When you want happiness, know that it starts with the way you view the world.

When you want success, know how hard you must fight to make it yours.

It’s okay to feel a little disappointed.

It’s okay to feel lost.

But when you decide to stop cringing from your safe place in a ball on the ground, stand up.

Find what you love to do and do it with passion.

It’s okay to not be okay but it is NOT okay to let it consume you.

Surround yourself with people who love you and love them fiercely.

Go on an adventure even if you don’t feel like it because you know the memories will be worth it.

Laugh as much as possible and daydream about where you are headed.

You can do these things even if you don’t feel okay.

You can experience happiness and still not feel okay.

It’s a process of growing.

It’s a process of becoming something utterly new and that IS okay.

Take your life day by day because that’s really all we can handle in 24 hours.

Plans change daily, futures are made up on the spot and dreams just keep getting bigger.

Chase down what you want and make it yours.

It’s never too late to start again.

We do it every morning.

Until Next Time,

Anna Marie

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No One Knows What’s Going On

Can I be honest with you?

No one knows what they’re doing.

No one has a plan for every single thing in their life.

If they do? I can guarantee you something will lead them astray.

We live day by day, putting our feet in front of the other if only to make it to tomorrow.

Some days we make giant leaps in becoming the exact kind of human we want to be.

Be the human you needed when you were younger.

Our choices need to be selfless yet selfish. Don’t you ever do to someone what you wouldn’t want done to you.

Didn’t we all learn that in 5th grade?

Why is it so hard to get to know someone now-a-days?

Why are walls built so high?

How do we trust people anymore?

In a world filled with selfishness, who decides to be selfless?

It’s not a demand and it sure as hell isn’t easy.

It makes it a little bit easier on those around you,

but a little bit harder on yourself.

You see, when you decide to be selfless, you decide to do for others what people haven’t done for you.

You decide to care deeply about strangers just because their struggles are different and comparing battles never gave you strength.

You stop looking at yourself as an image and start to know yourself as a person.

Don’t we all just want to be seen as people?

Weren’t we told to never judge a book by its cover?

People see a future only by looking at the surface of someone and that’s why things fail.

People don’t care anymore.

They’re too involved in who’s on Facebook and who snapchatted them today.

But if we could just sit down and get to know someone face to face, I bet you’d see them a lot differently.

I bet you’d stop thinking about selfies and instagram captions and start wondering about their journey and how they became who they are today.

If we would all just stop for one second and really look at the world around us, I think we’d be surprised.

I want to see genuineness, kindness and compassion.

Because right now, when I do see that, it seems like an amazing ordeal and the truth is it shouldn’t be.

Holding the door for someone shouldn’t be out of the ordinary.

Complimenting at least one person a day shouldn’t be over the top, it should be a habit.

People need to care more about each other and lifting each other up.

It’s important to have the balance between selfishness and selflessness.

But the teeter totter is stuck.

We need more people to start walking to the other side.

Until tomorrow,

Anna Marie

California Here I Come

When things don’t go right, go left. Way left, all the way out to California. At least, that’s my plan.

A few weeks ago I had plans to embark on a fun-filled road trip but due to some uprising conflicts, the trip has been cancelled. While I am really sad that I won’t be able to experience some of the unique history held in our country, I AM excited that a new opportunity came up.

For the traveling souls, we know that sometimes, you just have TO GO. So when I was talking with my cousin who lives out west, we came up with the idea of me going out to visit her for a couple weeks. A vacation to escape the world I’m used to and give myself time to feel like myself again.

I’ve been going through a bit of a rough patch the past few weeks. Because of this, I thought, maybe I should just stay home. I almost did until I thought what would Anna have done one month ago? Answer? She would have bought the ticket yesterday.

I booked my ticket a few days ago and leave in ten days. Spontaneous traveling will be my safe haven. It will allow me to see more of the world and come to terms with the vast possibilities and adventures that await over the horizon.

So California, here I come. Days filled with sunshine and the most therapeutic method of all- the ocean.

I cannot wait to be with someone who has lived a few of the same stories and who is such an inspiration to me. I cannot wait to go on adventures and catch up with myself to process what my life has been like for the past few years. Not many people get a chance like this. To just take a break and breathe. To adjust and understand where they want to go next. I need it and I need it with someone as wonderful as my cousin.

Maybe you don’t get an opportunity like this but I think it’s always important to take time to realize where you are and how you’re doing in your somewhat made up ten year plan. Are you happy? If not, what’s holding you back?

Those two weeks are going to help me recognize what’s important. Once again, travel is going to save me. New faces, new places and new memories. I am going to live every single day to it’s full potential of adventure because that’s what this trip deserves.

Don’t worry, I’m sure you’ll hear all about it.

Until tomorrow,

Anna Marie

Huge Moments Don’t Change You, The Process Does

Think about this. Graduating High School, your 21st birthday, graduating college, getting married, having children, etc. All of these huge moments in life are ones that we consider to be monumental and even life changing.

Somehow, we don’t feel all that different when this moment occurs yet we know our whole life has changed. Look at it this way, it’s not this moment in it’s entirety that has changed you, it was the process and hard work that led you to this moment.

High School

When someone hands you a high school diploma, there isn’t a shock wave of knowledge and certainty that consumes your body. No, in reality, someone just handed you a piece of paper that confirms you have worked your butt off the past four years. It is a beautiful day because you are recognized for the process it took to get your diploma, but I think we can all recall that it feels weird to be done because nothing really feels different. Sure, you toss your caps and celebrate but nothing really feels as if you have changed.

Well, you haven’t. Not right at that moment. But in those four years of clubs and academics? My Lord, you would barely recognize the same person. That’s what changed you.

21st Birthday

Your 21st birthday is supposed to be this magical day where you are no longer consuming alcohol illegally and can celebrate your responsibility with the substance. Truth is, you really didn’t change from the person you were at 11:59 pm and you probably didn’t change that much from the person you were a week ago. This can really go for any birthday.

Yet, we have to wait until this magical moment because that symbolizes our readiness (even if we weren’t considered “ready” 1 minute ago) to go forth on onward. It’s not the clock striking 12 that makes you ready to consume alcohol, it’s the experiences you have had leading up to midnight that America really thinks you need before you can drink. You don’t feel different on your birthday, because you’ve had a whole year of change leading up to another wise year added on to your age.

College Graduation

If you go to college and graduate, it’s almost the same scenario with High School. If you go through all of the requirements needed to graduate and never get handed a piece of paper, you would still know all of the material you do and be able to perform just as well. Somehow, this piece of paper and confirmation of your knowledge is to assure everyone else that we know what we’re talking about.

That moment we graduate from college doesn’t change us, the blood, sweat and tears we put into that degree changed us. The paper just confirms it. Of course it’s a great day to celebrate but that’s all it is. You’re celebrating the change that has already happened because when you are handed that degree, a wave of knowledge will not sink into your skin. You already have it, they are just recognizing it.

Getting Married

You meet someone, fall in love and want to tie the knot. You have a ceremony to celebrate two people coming together as one and can even change your last name. However, when you kiss the bride, there is no magical commitment enchantment that falls over you and your loved one. You decided that a long time ago.

The exact moment of signing a marriage license doesn’t make two people commit to each other, it confirms the commitment already made when you are asked to be married. Marriage is saying that you love the commitment you have made to each other and want to spend the rest of your life eating frozen pizza and laughing every day.

There is not a force field of love that engulfs you when you put that ring on his or her finger, that love is already there. You are just confirming it. That huge moment does not change you, it reinforces what you already know and have with each other.

Having Children

I have had two really close friends of mine become pregnant and I had to ask what it was like. They both told me, it was completely surreal until you saw yourself getting bigger and felt the baby start to move around. It was crazy for them to think of themselves as mothers until they had their child in their arms.

This one is tricky. Of course finding out your pregnant is a huge moment that will change your life. However, if you’ve been sexually active, you’ve technically been preparing for this moment to happen (even with birth control) because that’s what animals do. Reproduce. The process up to the baby’s birth will lead to another huge moment when your baby is now in this world outside of your tummy. The moment you can see your child is a huge life changing sequence that changes you in that moment.

But when my cousin first held her son in her arms, she said she didn’t know how to be a mom. What changed her was the process of it. Taking her baby home and starting to care for him, that’s what made her become a mother. Of course, as soon as she was pregnant she was the child’s mom but she learned how through the process. I thought that those words were so beautiful. It’s in the process more than a specific, entire moment. So from my understanding, it’s both the huge moment and the process.

Other

For those who like to contradict, I am sure you can think of incidents where a huge moment can change your life. I am in agreement. Death, accidents, etc. Those are all painful and huge moments that really can affect  you right then and there. But even with those moments, it’s not the instant someone dies that changes you, it’s the start button it presses for the process of change. The process of learning to live without someone. Learning to live with grief.

All in all, my point here is that the journey is more important then the destination. Take time to enjoy the process because you will spend most of your life in that phase rather than the celebration stage.

Value your processes more and you will be able to celebrate even harder at your next victory.

Until next time,

Anna Marie

What Do You Travel For?

With all of the inspiring reasons to adventure the world, have you found what you travel for?

Adventure: Isn’t this what people usually think of? Going on a new adventure. Transporting not only yourself physically, but mentally to a new place. Finding all of the significant landmarks you can explore, going off the beaten path and raising yourself to new heights. Giving your eyes the beauty of the world will never get old.

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Culture: Throwing yourself into another world. You dive into a way of living that might be completely different then your home. Being able to learn how other people grew up and the stories they were told. To experience another culture is to fit another puzzle piece into this complicated world we live in. You will learn so much about your own culture by experiencing the way others live.

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Relaxation: An escape away from home. Whether it’s a cabin in the middle of the woods or a hut on a secluded beach. Traveling can be a break from reality. It can make us forget our way too planned out lives and give us a few minutes to breathe. It’s a way to appreciate life in a way that allows us to let a moment sink in instead of rushing to the next place we’re supposed to be.

Halaveli, Maldives

Thrill: The adrenaline coursing through your veins when you step on the plane or in the car for a long ride. The excitement you feel when you get to the top of a hike and you’re staring down at the hundreds of lives below you. The feeling you get when you hop on a gandala for the first time or a tuk-tuk through the city. The adrenaline is a huge reason fro traveling, it’s exciting in every right. Just as it should be.

Change: Change of pace, change of scenery. Just a change from the same old streets and town signs surrounding your normal day. To feel the need for change is something that many of travelers crave. There is this need to be somewhere new and trek ground your feet haven’t wandered over before. I get it. You can only see so many stunning pictures online before you want to be the one taking it.

Sunrise at Moraine Lake in Banff National Park. Alberta, Canada.

Does one stick out to you? Maybe all of them made you shout “YES, that is IT”. Maybe you think it’s something else? (comment below).

Either way, this is what keeps the travelers traveling and the wanderers wandering.

Until tomorrow,

Anna Marie